I have herpes will I always have to be alone and sex free?

Question

I just found out I have genital herpes and I just feel like I will always be alone. I haven't had sex with anyone for a few months because I am afraid of spreading the virus. Will always be alone and abstinent?

Answer 1

Many people worry after finding out they have an STD about how future partners will react.



While there's no cure for herpes, for most people there are few or no serious effects and the severity of the outbreaks usually subside after the first outbreak or two. Most people who have herpes have happy dating or sex lives.



There are several things you can reduce the risk of transmitting herpes. Avoid sexual contact during an active outbreak--while you can transmit herpes when you aren't having an outbreak, it is much more commonly transmitted when you do. Using a condom can reduce the amount of skin-to-skin contact in affected areas and can reduce transmission (you may be able to further reduce this risk by wearing boxer briefs during sex, to cover more areas where skin might touch). Taking anti-herpes antiviral medicine (talk with your doctor) will reduce transmission and may also help your symptoms.



You may feel comforted talking with other people who have been diagnosed with herpes. You can find information about herpes support groups at:



http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/support/herpes.htm



Good luck!



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Answer 2

That's exactly how I felt when I first got herpes. But then I met a nice guy who when I told him that I had the disease, he was willing to look passed it. He even educated himself on herpes & everything. When him & I have sex now we make sure that I'm not on an outbreak & always use condoms.

Of course, not every guy is going to be this way, most will probably be jerks, but you WILL find somebody who is going to care for you, herpes & all! (:

You honestly don't have to tell the person you're with that you have it, just don't have sex with him so early in the relationship & before you guys finally do take that step, and you feel like you can trust him sit down & talk to him about it.



I'm going to tell you the same thing my boyfriend told me:



Just because you're sick doesn't make you any different. You're still you no matter what's wrong with you. This isnt the best thing in the world, but it's also not the worst. It's not a very bad STD, if anything it's just a little inconvenience to your sex life, nothing more.





Cheer up, Hun. It's not the end of the world

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Answer 5

Yes, there isn't any. Herpes is caused by a virus. Actually, there is little cure for viruses nowadays. The only thing that you can generally do in the case of a viral infection is strengthen the immune system and hope it fights it off. Not with Herpes, the immune system can't win against it. Thus you only get to treat the symptoms. Once you're infected, it stays with you for life. So don't get infected.



Personal experience. I have had genital herpes for over 5 years.



The #1 Herpes Cure Program?

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The point is that nowadays there are dating site like SingleHerpes. com The fact that you may be living with herpes, HIV/AIDS, Thrush or any other STD is not a negative issue. You just have found a whole community of people just like you. You have an opportunity to move on with your life.

If you just need to find someone to talk to or give them help or advice, this is the best place. Never feel lonely again !

Answer 8

Nope. Medication and condoms can prevent most transmissions. There will always be a small risk, but I think you'll find not everyone thinks you're a leper.



Herpes sucks, but it's not the end of the world. Just be honest with your partners, and be yourself.

Answer 9

I'm sure there's a medication you can take that will keep the virus down so you can have sex with a condom. At some point, when you're with someone who loves you, that person may decide to accept the risk of unprotected sex.

Answer 10

Nope. Just be honest and upfront with your partners. People might still reject you, but you still WILL find people that don't object. There are also dating sites out there for people with herpes as well. Good luck!

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Will I Always Have Herpes

Answer 12

Google "Movie stars with herpes"....it will make you feel better.... most of them aren't sitting home alone..

Answer 13

before you do it make sure to tell your partner and if they really do love you they'll understand you can still have a healthy life though but if you do ever do it WHERE GOD DAMN PROTECTION THAT WAY YOU DON'T SPREAD IT TO ANYONE !!! sorry for the yelling but if u want to have kids in the future u could adopt dont worry and like I said WEAR A RUBBER ITS GOOD FOR U WEAR A RUBBER DA DA DA DA DA DO DO ( heh heh do do ) but enjoy the rest of your life k

Answer 14

find someone else who has herpes to ****.

then you wont have to worry about spreading it.

Answer 15

most likely who wants to get herpes o_O