HIV - Scared to death?

Question

First off, I don't want stupid answers to my question. Please don't call me a whore or any other name, were all human and we all make mistakes.

I am 26 years old and my ex boyfriend is 28.
March 16 I had unprotected sex with my ex boyfriend of 5 years. At the time I think he had a girlfriend, whom he cheated on with me. I was checked out, I got everything checked, blood tests and a pap test and the only thing they could find was bacterial vaginosis. I may have been tested for HIV too early because it was before the 3 month mark which would have been June 16. I found out after we had unprotected sex and before I was tested that he was starting to date this woman whom is known to be hardcore into drugs/alcohol. My best friends boyfriend told me that she used to mainline and probably has HIV. I'm not sure if she had sex with my ex before him and I hooked up on March 16 tho.

September 16th would be 6 months after we had unprotected sex.

On June 30, I had PROTECTED sex with the same ex. I'm still worried because i've read that condoms are still not 100%. I'm very proud that we used condoms this time because that is something I always struggled with, but now I'm afraid that now that I learned my lesson from March, that's it's too late.

September 30 would be the 3 month mark to get tested for HIV.

I'm so scared. If I ended up being HIV postive, or have any other life altering STD I would end my life completely. I wouldn't want to jeopardize anyone else if I ended up with such an awful disease. I can't concentrate at work, I can't eat and I can't even smile.

I'm also scared that if the test comes back negative that I wouldn't believe the result because some people experience a "false negative".

I wish I wouldn't have made such an AWFUL mistake. If I could erase the past I would... but I can't.

Thank you for listening.

Answer 1

First off,

You're not stupid and we've all been there and done that. Kudos to you for using condoms. HIV RNA tests (they are more expensive but more accurate and can detect HIV up to 6 days after exposure) are very reliable. After the three month mark HIV is detectable 97% of the time. I wish you all the best, but I am pretty sure you will be just fine. :)

Answer 2

I dont think you really want an answer do you?



Lets take this one step at a time, you dont know for sure that your ex nor that his new GF has HIV. Lots of people who choose to inject drugs are infected though, so she is in a high risk group.

Unfortunately so are various other high risk groups, like people from sub saharan africa.



In the UK studies have shown that he risks of picking up HIV from one episode of unprotected sex are about less then 1:1000. Its still not a risk worth taking though as am sure your now very aware of the mental stew that puts folk in.



Best advice, go get tested, some areas do rapid 2 minute tests, best test is a blood test which will take a couple of days tho. If you are negative then great, but if you are positive its better to know now before your physical health is affected as treatments are quite effective at keeping you healthy and well for years.



Good luck

Answer 3

For a start, you don't know that she does have HIV. People talk - people assume that an IV drug user probably has HIV, it doesn't mean it's true.

Speak to your doctor about testing. Have a full blood test, including hepatitis C.

You cannot let the fear of this take over your life. You can't change what's happened, you can only learn from it. Worrying now won't change anything - it will just affect your quality of life in the meantime. I'm sure if you book in to see your doctor, they will be able to refer you for the blood test and reassure you.

Answer 4

listen, you are not a whore and you are right you are human and humans make mistakes. i think the best thing you can do now is to concentrate on the future and keeping your self healthy and protected. You don't know for sure if he had had sex with that other girl (high risk for hiv) before you and beating your self up everyday about it is not going to do your self any favours. You need to take a deep breath and get ur self down the clinic asap and get it checked out cause going from one extreme to another ie ' i may have it ....i may not ...' will be worse than the truth. Just learn from this episode .move forward and protect urself in the furure. be strong and it will all work out in the end xxxxxx

Answer 5

Hunny, most of that HIV stuff is only a scare put out by way of the Mommies of the usa for the Prevention of intercourse (MAPS). For the herpes: purchase a bottle of extract of creosote bush (chaparral Latin: Larrea tridentata). Apply it to your contaminated parts, in and out. Do it in the shower. If it smarts, you can douche it out with the shower. Depart it in if it would not smart. It's going to be flushed out. I believe the entire HIV=AIDS equation is dangerous science. AIDS is ordinarily because of the sniffing of nitrites (poppers) by way of homosexual guys and the breathing of nitrites pesticides and fertilizers in Africa, as good as the toxic “medicinal drugs” prescribed. In different phrases, it seems to be a form of blood-poisoning. There are currently good over ninety retroviruses classified as HIV. Which is proven for? They look for antibodies, seeing that no virus has ever been isolated ! At any time when a sufferer turns up with AIDS and the test shows HIV poor, they search for a further and dub it a mutation. There are thousands of viruses in the market, so it can be no massive obstacle and the way might he have AIDS while not having "the virus"? The definition of AIDS has now been transformed, so that any person who has AIDS must have some form of HIV, otherwise he conveniently does not have AIDS, hence the necessity of discovering but an additional “mutation”. Gay men are consistently exhorted to get proven for HIV. Homosexual publications are filled with commercials for this. Good-funded trusts exist with the sole purpose of struggling with HIV and “helping” individuals observed to be confident. Do you consider the officers of those foundations want to lose their jobs and the perquisites that go with them? This scare means that extra gay men get proven than some other workforce, so, hence, extra or them are discovered to be "HIV optimistic”. Retroviruses are beautiful evenly distributed for the period of the populace, but who's checking out housewives, nuns, fathers of families? I seem to recall that one of the first folks to contract AIDS in the us was once certainly a nun. She is not listed, as no “HIV antibodies” could be observed in her method. One of the vital first in Germany was the wife of a farmer who insisted she by no means even visited the closest city, on the farm she had cost of ... Look forward to it ... The pesticides and fertilizers, i.E. Nitrites.

Answer 6

We all wanna change the past. Keep your chin up and keep existing... xxxxxxxxxxxx GOD bless everyone